Visiting Home

Visiting Home

It had been a long time. Too long, to be honest. Life, “stuff” and Covid all managed to intervene. Finally, after a couple of years away, we were making a trip back to Illinois to see family and friends. The feelings of anticipation were palpable.

We started with visits to old friends – dinner out one night, ribs on the grill another; laughter and tears; telling old stories and making new memories. From there, it was lunch, beer and tenderloin sandwiches with another old buddy. Finally, it was on to family time and staying with each of my sisters, Tanya and Roberta. Again, more laughter, tears, dinners out, favorite foods* and stories from our youth.

Old Friends…

Everything led up to the last day, and a family picnic at my sister Roberta’s home. Counting my Uncle Don, mom’s last surviving brother, we were four generations strong – Uncle Don and his friend Diane; Roberta, Tanya and I and our husbands and wives; our nieces and nephews and their spouses; and of course their children. The oldest person was 80, the youngest about 14 months old. There were perhaps 30 or 35 of us.

As folks arrived, we greeted each other with smiles and hugs. We hadn’t seen some of our nieces and nephews in four years. There were also great nieces and nephews we’d never before met. There was much laughter and love with each new greeting.

It was a great day – we were talking with everyone, telling stories and catching up… There was a huge potluck lunch, and I ate way too much. Our niece Diane is the curator of mom’s potato salad recipe, so I had to have two helpings of that. After lunch, we followed the kids to the creek and had water balloon fights. Then, it was on to the raft at the pond, where swimming, sliding down a slide, jumping in and diving off the raft all ensued. I managed a backflip off the dock, and to laughter from the grand nieces and nephews, only slightly smacked my face on the water. It was a fun and wet afternoon… 😉

Clockwise from upper left: Uncle Don, Laying out the picnic, At the Creek, In the Pond, and Cathy about to be hit with a water balloon…

We all know all good things come to an end, and people eventually loaded their cars back up with kids, coolers and leftovers. Another set of hugs and kisses, and promises to try and see each other more often. Eventually, the only ones left were Berta and her husband Jack, along with Cathy and I. We finished cleaning up and bringing things into the house. We were, perhaps, a bit quieter than we’d been just an hour or two before. Jack had to go to work early in the morning, so we said our goodbyes to him that night.

The next morning, after coffee, Cath and I hugged Roberta goodbye and departed. I’m not one for long goodbyes, so we left a bit earlier than planned. After a quick stop to briefly visit our parent’s graves, it was on to O’Hare Airport and home.

One of the prices Cath and I paid by joining the Army and moving away all those years ago, is we have missed so much of our friends’ and families’ lives back home. That is a part of what makes these trips precious. We didn’t really get to see our nieces and nephew grow up, except for scattered visits, and history is of course repeating with the grand nieces and nephews. This is true for Cathy’s side of the family as well. We love our lives and have no regrets about the choices we’ve made over the past 40 plus years, and yet…

As I’ve become older, I often have a certain sense of bitter-sweetness about these get togethers with friends and family. The time goes by so quickly, the highs of the greetings and the lows of the departures blend together in a strange set of feelings that don’t easily mesh. There are shades of love, along with the happiness and sadness that accompany love. The passage of time in our lives continues to speed up.

I know (and pray) we will have many more wonderful times together in the years ahead. For me, along with the joy, there will also always be a bit of wistfulness.

Good times … Tanya, me, and Roberta…

Addendum:

* Favorite foods are always an interesting topic. A couple of the things that remind me of home are Tenderloin sandwiches and Sam’s Pizza. You can’t find the sandwiches outside of Iowa, Indiana or Illinois and they are killer good. And Sam’s? Well, it’s Sam’s. GREAT pizzas there…. both make me (and many others) nostalgic for our home town of Ottawa.

Comfort food for sure….

– Thanks to my niece Diane Schott, along with sisters Roberta Gourley and Tanya McCambridge for supplying several of the photographs included here!

Cathy and Elvis

Cathy and Elvis

Forty-four years ago in 1977, my wife, Cathy, was living in DC. On May 22d, Elvis played the Cap Center. Cath checked off a bucket list item and was one of the fans there for the sellout concert. Three months later, on August 16th, Elvis would die at Graceland.

Cath is a lifelong Elvis fan. She has had 45s, LPs, Cassette tapes, CDs and now digital versions of his music. As a child, she remembers her parents taking her to the drive-in theatre to see some of his movies.

When the opportunity presented itself to see him in concert in ‘77, the idea became a “must do” for her. This was Elvis! The Elvis! Not an impersonator, not a tribute band, but the man himself. The guy who sold over 500 million records, and performed in 33 movies. Sure, he was a bit older, but the man was a living icon.

I have to admit, it took me many years to gain an appreciation for Elvis equal to what Cathy already had in 1977. If my memory is correct, I gave her grief about going to the concert. First, that she was going to see Elvis, and second, she was going to see “Fat Elvis” (my words). It wasn’t one of my finer moments. I also feel a bit foolish, looking in retrospect, at the missed opportunity to see him. Having said that, I recently learned I wasn’t really invited to the concert. Since I wasn’t a true believer, and something of a skeptic, in Cathy’s eyes, I wasn’t worthy of going to the performance with her.

Cath was able to buy tickets and she and her friend Ann made it to the concert. It was at the Cap Center, then in Largo Maryland. It was only the third time he’d played in DC (previously, in ‘56 and ‘74). There were over 20,000 fans were in attendance. The sitting capacity at the arena was 19,035, so it was a sell-out with standing room only. He played for about an hour, and his fans, including Cathy, loved it.

Although her recollections of the concert are now a bit fuzzy, a few things still stand out. Their tickets were OK – not nosebleed seats, but also not on the floor. She thought his voice was great. While she maintains that she and her friend Ann weren’t screaming, she definitely recalls that many were. The women in the pit in front of the stage were particularly loud. Periodically, Elvis would take off a scarf he was wearing, wipe his brow and neck with it, and hand it to an adoring fan (Cath admits to being a bit grossed out by that part). She remembers him playing Hound Dog, but none of the other songs from the set list.

Her best memory of the concert? Elvis’s smile. She loved the crooked, lopsided way he grinned. It felt like “it was directed just at her”. Combined with his eyes, it was just too much.

A Bootleg CD of the Concert. The Set List Included Some of his Classics, as Well as a Few Alternate Choices

While many of the reviews for the shows on his final concert tour were less than charitable, the reviews of that night in Largo were reasonable. From Cath’s perspective, it really didn’t matter what the reviews said, it was the best concert she had ever attended.

It was the raw sexuality and novelty of his moves that captured the women’s, and Cathy’s, devotion. While other performers of the day were biting the heads off chickens to make their names and gather fans, Elvis devout fans were already legion. His performance might have been flawed according to the critics, but Cathy says it was vintage.

One reviewer, in closing, said this about his performance – “The pace of Presley’s performance was an indicator that he will be around for some time to come. He takes care of himself, and he’s at the age where he must think of these things. He’s growing old gracefully with all of his old friends across the country, including Prince George County last night.

His last concert was one month later in Indianapolis on June 26th. Two months later, on August 16th, he died of heart failure at Graceland. He was 42 years old.

The King of Rock and Roll has now been gone for more years than he was alive. I believe it’s probably a fair guess there are more Elvis impersonators than tribute bands for all other bands and singers combined. Friends of ours, Howard and Laurie, were married in Las Vegas and had an Elvis Impersonator at their reception and it was perfect. My sister Roberta and her husband Jack had a Korean Elvis appear at a party at their farm a few years ago and the crowd went crazy. We all have either seen an Elvis impersonator, or know someone who has. In 1977, Cathy saw the King himself. Older, but the King nonetheless.

The King is gone… Long live the King.

Addendum:

• I’ve tried to think of other artists who have the iconic status of Elvis, but I believe it’s a pretty short list. The Beatles? Sure. Sinatra? Probably. Louis Armstrong? Maybe. Anyone else? There are lots of good singers and bands out there, but no one else pops to mind that crossed generations, cultures and time the way Elvis did, and continues to do so.

• You can find different memorabilia of the Largo concert online, to include music CDs, ticket stubs, and a couple of videos. I’ve attached a link to one of the videos here. I’ve scanned the video looking for Cath’s young face, but haven’t found it. You can see it at: https://youtu.be/xaiBeMIWV9M

Very Fine People on Both Sides

Very Fine People on Both Sides

There are very fine people on both sides, unless you are the Republican Party and Liz Cheney is on one of those sides. Evidently there’s no room for Liz in today’s Republican Party. We all know her crime – acknowledging Trump lost the election, and calling out “The Big Lie” propagated by Trump and his sycophants.

After Trump’s election loss last November, and the events of January 6th, many of us were watching to see which way the Republican Party would turn, post-Trump.  Would they return to the Republican Party of old? Or stay in the thrall of Trump?

It’s sad to say, but we can all see what is happening.  The party of Dirksen and Percy, McCain and Romney, Reagan and Bush, even the party of W, is no more.  They should change the name from the Republican Party to the Trumplican Party, or The Party of Trump.  There is no room for dissent within the Grand Old Party. And it’s not just with Cheney.

In Utah at a Republican meeting, the crowd loudly booed Romney. They almost voted to Censure him. In Arizona, the GOP DID vote to censure Cindy McCain, widow of John McCain. In Arizona, they also continue to challenge last November’s election results, despite the fact their own Republican elected officials certified the election results multiple times. McCarthy, Hawley, Cruz, DeSantis, Rubio and other hopefuls all continue to make their pilgrimages to Mar-a-Lago. It has become the Republican Mecca.

Until 2017, I was a lifelong Independent voter. Over the course of my life, I voted for Republicans, Democrats and Independents in elections from the local level, all the way to presidential. In 2017, after Charlottesville, Donald Trump pushed me to the Democratic Party.

I have pondered whether I would return to my roots as an Independent Voter after Trump was gone from office. The Republican Party’s actions of the last week, and the last four months indicate that is not likely to happen anytime soon.

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Addendum:

Here’s what Representative Cheney herself had to say last week: https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2021/05/05/liz-cheney-republican-party-turning-point/

Thanks as always to my friend, Colleen Conroy for editing assistance!

Living with AFIB

Living with AFIB

I’ve had Atrial Fibrillation (AFIB) since the summer of 2012, when I was bitten by a copperhead snake. Normally, it’s not a problem, but in February of this year, I had an incident that sent me to the Emergency Room and on a two month journey of heart tests. The result? Well….

It happened on Valentine’s Day (insert bad joke about broken heart here). Actually, it started around the 10th of February, when I stood up from the couch and walked into the kitchen and almost fainted. I just figured I’d risen to quickly and didn’t think much more about it. Then, on the 13th, I felt dizzy just while sitting, although the feeling went away relatively quickly. However, as the day went on, I felt worse, in an undefined sort of way. The next day, the 14th, I wasn’t any better. I checked my pulse and blood pressure several times, and they were, um, wildly variable is probably a good way to say it. Finally, in the afternoon, I called our friend Janet, a most excellent nurse. She listened to what I had to say, was concerned about a couple of the numbers, and advised me to go to the ER to be on the safe side.

Cathy and I talked, and I decided to drive myself to the ER (perhaps not the smartest thing to do) at Fauquier Health in Warrenton, and arrived without incident. When I described at checkin what was going on, they moved me to a room within five minutes, tops. The ER doctor and nurse were both outstanding. In a matter of minutes, they administered the first three, of what would ultimately be ten heart related tests over the next two months.

In the ER, they gave me an EKG, a blood test and a chest X-ray. The blood test and X-ray were both normal. The EKG showed AFIB and nothing else – no stroke and no heart attack. In the meantime, I was feeling more normal – whatever it was, had passed.

The ER doctor talked to the on-call cardiologist from my regular cardiologist’s office and they took me off of one drug (Metoprolol, a beta blocker, which reduces your heart rate), thinking that may have caused the dizziness. He then discharged me and told me not to drive until I could see my cardiologist. I explained I drove myself to the ER, and he looked at me and said “I didn’t hear that”.

I didn’t drive for the next week, but having no subsequent incidents, did drive to the appointment with my cardiologist, Doctor Shah. We reviewed what happened, and then he scheduled a number of tests.

First up? Wearing a Mobile Cardiac Telemetry Monitor for five days. The monitor is a sort of portable EKG type device which continually monitored my heart 24 hours a day for five days. The result? Nothing apparent, other than my normal AFIB.

Next up? Tests five, six and seven – an Abdominal Aorta Ultrasound, a Renal Artery Ultrasound and a Leg Blood Flow Ultrasound and Study. The results? No ballooning, blockages, closures, or reductions in any of the major arteries leaving the heart and subsequently going to the kidneys and legs. In other words, the major arteries all looked normal.

Let’s keep things moving along….

Test eight was a CT Cardiac Calcium Scoring Scan. This is a scan of the heart that looks for deposits of calcium in and around the heart. Calcium leads to blockages, and this isn’t good. The results? Uh oh. There’s some calcium found. BUT, it turns out just about all people my age have some calcium. The test results go on to say “the total calcium score of 29 is between the 0 and 25 percentile for males between the ages of 65 and 69. This means 0 percent of people this age and gender had less calcium than was detected in this study.” —whew

Test nine – back to the hospital for a Heart Stress Test. This is essentially a type of EKG while walking or running on an inclined treadmill for a period of time. With all the walking I do on the hills near the farm, this should be a no brainer. Except it isn’t. Something trips about 7 minutes into the test, indicating there may be an issue and I may have a constriction somewhere blocking blood flow around the heart. After they stop the treadmill, they continue to monitor my heart, which returns to normal quickly. Hmmmm. The doctor thinks this may have just been a false positive, particularly since I was wearing a mask during the test (this was in the time of Covid after all).

The test result goes to DR Shah, and he and I have a conference call. Looking at the result, he thinks it might be a false positive as well. He suggests one more test, so we can verify one way or another.

And so, it’s on to test ten – A CT Angio Coronary Test Without Calcium Scoring. For this test, I go to another hospital, a bit farther away. I can have nothing to eat or drink prior to the test. They inject me with iodine and take a series of CT scans of the heart.

Two days go by, and then the results arrive. “No significant stenosis identified. Small area of calcification noted in the left anterior descending which also did not have a corresponding area of narrowing within the artery.” For us lay people, stenosis is the narrowing of an artery or heart valve. We already knew there was a bit of calcification from the Calcium Scoring Scan, so nothing new there. The good news is there is “no significant stenosis”. The doctor is happy with the results, and pronounces my heart to be OK. We talk about diet*, as we always do, and schedule my next appointment, several months from now.

The ol’ Ticker is Looking OK…..

One of the phrases I never pictured using in my life is “My cardiologist said….”. And yet, here we are.

Did the Metoprolol cause the fainting/dizziness? The doctor isn’t sure, but we are keeping me off the Metoprolol for now. My heartbeat has stayed in the normal range without the drug, even though the actual rate varies continually.

So, here I sit over two and a half months later, pondering this recent journey. Part of me is thinking – “What the hell, ten tests!? That’s crazy!” And part of me is thinking “Ten tests, and we still don’t really know what happened.” And part of me is thinking “Ten tests, and they all pretty much show my heart (other than the AFIB) and arteries are in good health. I should be thankful.” The engineer in me says “ten tests and now we have a good baseline for all of these areas.”

All things considered, I am thankful. There’s a history of heart problems in my family – my dad and one of my sisters both had strokes and an uncle and two cousins died of strokes. From my perspective, any good news on heart stuff, is just plain good news and I’ll take it.

I’ve felt fine since the Valentine’s Day visit to the ER, so maybe it was the Metoprolol. Or, maybe it’s something else lurking around, waiting for another opportunity to complicate things, but I’m not worrying about that right now. I have too much living to do, to let this slow me down.

Oh, and one other thing. I did learn a new word. “Syncope.” Syncope is the medical term for fainting or “passing out.” It’s the temporary loss of consciousness, usually related to insufficient blood flow to the brain. So, while I thought this all started with a near fainting episode, it was actually a syncope issue…. ;-).

Addendum:

If you want to read about my encounter with the Copperhead, you can find it here: https://mnhallblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/30/copperhead-hunting-in-flip-flops/

*Diet – My cardiologist would prefer that I was a vegetarian. I don’t see that happening any time soon. Having said that, Cathy and I both eat healthily – lots of salads, vegetables and fruits. Not much beef or pork. A bit more chicken, and a fair amount of seafood. We’ve greatly reduced dairy – I don’t drink milk, and now eat cheese only on special occasions. We’ve also reduced carbs significantly. Bread and pasta have become a rarity. When we have rice, it’s usually brown rice. Potatoes? We have them at one restaurant we go to, where I apparently can’t resist them, and maybe once a month at home. Neither of us have ever been dessert fans. As my cooking has expanded, I find myself gravitating to Indian, Korean and stir fry dishes – much of it, but not all, vegetarian. My diet isn’t perfect, but I believe it’s healthier than about 90% of America. I realize that’s not a particularly high bar.